How self-help addiction can define your life
Many people dive deep into self-help, so deep that it defines their life and becomes
a self-help addiction. But… Self-help addiction is not the way to go to help yourself.
What I mean by that? Look. It could have started like this:
- find a blog or a website about self-help
- start reading and think hmmm, great info, just what I need right now
- buy your first self-help book and while reading it, you feel like it was written only for you
- find some videos about self-help, can’t stop watching them over and over again,
you do that each time you feel you need them
- decide to buy your first self-help course or get a coach
- buy another book, a DVD, watch another video and so on…
For sure, you’ve heard the term “junkie” in context with drugs. Being addicted to self-help is just like that. You want more and more of it. Your thoughts, actions, your entire life, everything revolves around it. And you just cannot stop. You’ve become a self-help junkie. Is this you?
The difference between addiction and genuine self-help
“The word addiction is used in several different ways. One definition describes physical addiction. This is a biological state in which the body adapts to the presence of a drug so that drug no longer has the same effect, otherwise known as a tolerance. Another form of physical addiction is the phenomenon of overreaction by the brain to drugs (or to cues associated with the drugs). An alcoholic walking into a bar, for instance, will feel an extra pull to have a drink because of these cues.” (Source: Psychology Today)
On the other hand, genuine self-help brings measurable results which can be seen by everyone around you:
- Grow mentally by developing new skills
– learning another language
– learning web design
– creating a website
– inventing something new
– developing your memory
- Grow physically by
– losing weight
– losing belly fat
– lower blood pressure
– reduce pain
– fewer annual sick days
- Grow spiritually by
– facing your fears
– overcoming setbacks
– learning to meditate
– discovering other spiritual traditions
– learning about other belief systems
So what is the conclusion: Self-help can lead to measurable progress and personal growth.
You can experience that in every area of your life. What makes a difference is if you really want it or just “take it” almost as an excuse for yourself.
Your true desire to reach out for personal growth can produce magnificent external results.
Those around you will observe the changes and perhaps address some questions to find out what happened with you.
Not easy to digest, right? Let’s stop here for today although there is so much more to clarify.
And now… some relaxing moments before I ask you something:
What do you think? Does it make sense to stop self-help addiction and go for the genuine one leading to personal growth? Let me know in the comments.